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The real torment of trading has never been the market itself. It's that you see two versions of yourself within the same body. One self is very clear-headed. He knows the trend requires patience, knows position sizing must be controlled, knows the market won't change direction because of your anxiety. The other self is like fire. He craves to recover losses, craves to prove himself, craves to turn fate around in a single market swing. So every day you experience an internal battle. Sometimes you win. You resist the impulse, watch the market play out, and feel calm inside. Sometimes the demon wins. You enter early, go heavy on positions, delay stop losses, and afterward you clearly know you weren't trading—you were being led by desire.

Frequent monitoring of the market often occurs among ordinary traders, especially beginners and those still feeling lost in the trading world. They tend to be driven by emotions, focusing on technical aspects, chasing current or short-term trades, always eager to cash out, and unable to endure the psychological toll of market fluctuations, dreaming of getting rich overnight every day. The funds of these ordinary retail investors generally keep shrinking because frequent market watching and trading endlessly exploit human weaknesses, leaving no time for rest or adjustment. They become exhausted, their weaknesses magnified indefinitely, and their minds burdened with stress indefinitely until one day they collapse—like a constantly tightened elastic band that inevitably snaps after a long time.

When you exercise, you feel weaker, but in reality, you are getting stronger; when you are learning something new, you feel stupid, but you are actually becoming smarter. So when you are improving, you will definitely become vulnerable first, and this moment of vulnerability is actually a very important moment of progress. ​​​

Many "big shots" during their low periods don't seem to be "diligently striving" in the usual sense; instead, it looks more like a long-term hibernation. In fact, they are not "not working," but rather protecting their "cognitive bandwidth." Because once someone is trapped in high-pressure repetitive work for a long time, they quickly degrade into "only solving immediate problems"; the brain loses the ability to perceive long-term structures. And truly significant matters are often not achieved through sheer physical effort, but through: judging trends; observing human nature; understanding situations; accumulating cognition over time; and waiting for the critical moment. So many people, looking back later, realize that the most terrifying aspect of exhausting physical labor at the base level is not just fatigue. It is that it slowly erodes a person's thinking ability, imagination, patience, and ambition.

Zhenyun said: "What are the most degrading behaviors for a man: 1. Being timid when meeting important people. 2. Feeling inferior when seeing beautiful women. 3. Acting awkward at grand occasions. What should a man ideally be like: 1. If money is lost, it can be earned again. 2. If friends are lost, new ones can be made. 3. If love is lost, new relationships can be pursued. 4. If a job is lost, another can be found." ​​​

The decline of a middle-aged man does not start from poverty, but from the mindset of "forget it." Forget it, no more struggling. Forget it, just let it be. Forget it, it's okay if the body gets a little worse. Gradually, a person loosens up. No longer wants to win, no longer wants to change, and the body can no longer support the spirit. In fact, what middle-aged men fear most is not age. It is having no goals and no physical strength. Because people without physical strength find it hard to withstand life; people without direction find it hard to maintain long-term self-discipline. So men can hit rock bottom, can fail, can temporarily stop. But they cannot let themselves sink slowly into that state forever. Retrain, start doing things again, pull yourself back. It's never too late to start.

The most harmful phrase to young people in this world is "Your job is unstable." What does stable mean? Earning a few thousand a month, no raise in ten years, life with no prospects— is that what stability means? Many high-income industries are indeed unstable; the industry might disappear in five or six years, the company might be gone, the trend might pass, but so what? Others earn in one year what you make in five, and the resources, knowledge, connections, and cash flow accumulated over five years are on a completely different level. What’s truly scary is never job instability itself, but that you give up growth speed, earning ability, and imagination for the future too early in the name of so-called stability. Of course, high income doesn’t necessarily mean true security either. If a person only knows how to work hard to make money but lacks the ability to save, skills, and fallback options, once they stop, they will also fall into the abyss. So true stability isn’t what the company gives you, but that no matter how the industry changes, you still have the ability to make money again.

Browsing Xianyu too much has actually decreased my material desires. I deeply feel that "it's easy for money to turn into things," but "it's hard for things to be converted back into money." The items you impulsively bought thinking they were treasures, no matter how much you discount them, no one wants them. ​​​

What does it mean when it says girls must resist the temptation to go downward? It doesn't mean you should look for someone with worse conditions than you. Rather, it refers to those voices telling you: "Girls don't need to work so hard," "Marrying well is more important than working hard," "You just need to be pretty," "No one likes a woman who's too strong," "Just find a man who can support you." The scariest part of these words is not that they make girls dependent on men. It's that they slowly take away a person's: judgment, survival skills, financial independence, mental independence, and perception of the world. In the end, they turn a woman's life into a kind of "competitive job application." When young, competing on appearance; as age increases, fearing aging, fearing losing value, fearing being replaced. This leads to growing anxiety, less and less security, and a stronger desire to control relationships. Because when a person's value is long-term built on "being chosen," it's very hard for her to truly own her life. Don't sell the initiative of your life cheaply to a seemingly easy life narrative. True upward movement is not about depending on someone. It is about: during your youngest, most vibrant years, continuing to grow, continuing to understand the world, and continuously building your own abilities and spirit.

Many high-potential people share a common trait when they are young: instability, nonconformity, unsuitability for the system, difficulty in quick realization, and only finding their true direction late. Such people often look like "failures" in their twenties. But many who truly have long-term momentum are not assembly-line talents. The real danger is never the temporary lack of results. It is: self-denial before true maturity. Quitting before momentum forms. Collapsing before long-term accumulation generates compounding. Many people's lives are not lost to others but to the panic of "Am I already too late?" The greatest risk in life is not starting late. It is believing "I can't do it" before your own momentum has formed. Because: human growth curves are not linear.